Mynde Mayfield from myndemayfield.com wanted me to comment on comparing ourselves to other people. Her twitter handle is @myndemayfield
My short answer about comparing is that it’s ALWAYS a losing game.
So why do it? You’re never going to come out on top, so do yourself a favor and resist the temptation.
It’s human nature to always be checking ourselves. But there is another way. We can practice just allowing ourselves to be.
We can begin to practice letting go of the reference point of “other” to know we exist and are okay.
We compare ourselves to others to either feel superior or to feel like crap.
We like to feel superior so we can fortify against any soft spot we know darn well is there.
We like to feel like crap because there is some weird comfort in our little putrid cocoon of low expectations for ourself, and our victim story that goes round and round and gives us an excuse not to take responsibility for our lives.
If we feel like crap all the time and keep feeding that, we never have to take any risks, and never have to feel the bracing wind of vulnerability, or failure, or *gasp* success!
There are always going to be people doing things better than us, and doing things worse than us. The main thing, from my viewpoint, is to be as genuine as you possibly can in everything you are doing and to be fully present. My teachers have mentioned about a gazillion times to me, that those two things can bring you ALOT of happiness and contentment in life.
SECRET: there’s nowhere to get too. There’s no giant prize for being the best. We can just relax and enjoy the process of expressing ourselves fully and releasing our attachment to the outcome. Things don’t have to be perfect or masterful to be effective. Notice how AFFECTED we are by dogs and children. They certainly don’t know how to write well or market well or get a lot of followers on Twitter. But they are genuine and present and are doing the best they know how. It’s quite beautiful isn’t it?
Trust your own path. A Buddhist teaching goes something like this; Better to walk your own path well than another’s poorly.